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When It’s Time to Say Goodbye
We’ve all been there… you’ve been casually dating someone and you don’t see it progressing! Professional matchmaking can seem perfect on paper but the chemistry is simply not there. Sometimes the other person is head over heels but you just don’t mirror those feelings and can’t see a future together. What do you do? Here are a couple of Do’s and Don’ts:
Do Keep it Simple…You do not need to feel bad for not being into someone. It happens. There is no need to put them down or beat yourself up. Chemistry is a crazy thing and no one can predict it. Human beings are very complex and as such are looking for specific traits in a partner. It’s to be expected that not everyone is going to be your cup of tea. When it’s time to say goodbye, practice in advance what you want to say. Being unprepared can make things even more awkward. Be straightforward, gentle, be clear and use a soft tone.
Don’t Disappear… Ghosting (where someone ends a relationship by simply disappearing) on someone can send mixed messages. It can take awhile for someone to get the hint, and in the meantime you’re going to be dodging phone calls and perhaps even avoiding places where they might be. We’re strong believers in not burning bridges, you never know how or when you will meet the right someone, it could even be a friend of the person you’re trying to ditch, so be cool and be honest.
Do Be Respectful… Being rejected can bring up very real insecurities and often deep feelings. We all react differently to rejection, predict what their reaction may be and be prepared. You have the opportunity to be kind during a difficult time. Affirm their positive characteristics but be clear that you simply don’t see it progressing any further in a romantic fashion.
Don’t Sabotage… If you know how you feel and are afraid to end the new relationship, don’t be a horrible person in the hopes that they will dump you. This is a chance to ‘grow-up’ a little bit! Will it be tough? Sure it will – but you will be remembered for being honest than creating drama and discord.
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